Epic Life Advice For INFPs
“As a creative INFP with tons of potential, the last thing you want to happen is to get stuck in a career you don’t like.”
Life advice for INFPs – Save as much as you spend
I’m going to read a quote, and then I’m going to share some of my own feedback. I’m an ENFP myself, but I’ve coached a lot of INFPs and work with a lot of INFPs. So I’m going to kind of share my own advice based on the quote and add to it and that sort of thing, I thought it would be a fun way to do it, we’ll try it out, see how it works out. So here’s the first one: Save as much as you spend.
As an INFP, you have so much potential in the creative field, and I would say in many cases working for yourself. And the last thing you want to have happen is to get stuck in a career you do not like or even worse, some crappy job you hate, because you’ve spent all your money.
There are some personality types who love just like fulfilling their duties, getting work done making money doing whatever needs to get done. That is not you as an INFP, and this creates a serious problem If you find yourself in a job, say where you make $50,000 a year, and you spend $50,000 a year or 49,000 or 51,000.
When you realize that you don’t really like your job, you want to make a big change or you want to start your own business, start writing poetry or creating something visual and then you realize you have no money, and no time because the job you don’t like takes on your time, It’s pretty obvious you’re in a trap. You can’t really do your own thing because there is no money or time left.
So save as much money as you spend.
Now I don’t know if that’s actually possible in most economies, but being frugal saving money, and giving yourself an exit plan is something you should do.
Now the way to get there is when you’re ideally when you’re younger, and you’re starting off, don’t level up your expenses if you’re living with a couple of roommates, and that’s what you’re used to, and then suddenly you get a raise at work, don’t then move out on your own and start spending that money because you’re going to get trapped.
Once you live in this really nice apartment, you’re probably not going to want to backtrack to something that is nice. At the very least, it’s going to be hard to do. Keep your expenses as low as possible and save money, and the best way to save money if you are an idealist type is in advance.
So when you get paid save 10%, 20%, 30% of that, put that away in a separate bank account, you never look at, out of sight out of mind.
Save that way rather than having the money in your bank account and hoping like oh, maybe at the end of the month, I’ll have some extra insight. That really, really never works. Don’t be afraid, go for it.
INFP Advice – Do not let the fear control your life
Be careful about the fear coming back up and pulling you back into a job.
So you have that first jump where you quit your job and you say I’m going for this, I really want to make this happen, and you get started and you start your own business and like three months in, it’s not going quite as fast as you thought, or you had a few rejections, and then you start looking for jobs and you go back to a job offer, and it is what it is, you’re back in a job – don’t let that happen.
The best way I found to not let that happen is – the awareness in advance. You have heard it from me now – It’s going to be tough, first three months or six months are going to be rough, BUT do not let your guard down, do not give up, just commit and give it a year or two.
The second thing you can do is have some external accountability and support. So the fact that you maybe are hearing this from me, like, Hey, this is going to happen, you can mentally prepare and say, okay, three months in, I’m going to start doubting myself six months, then I’m going to be terrified. But I’m committing now to give it a full year or two years.
The other thing you can do is have some kind of external support and accountability. Some of the people I coached wanted to give up, but after I talk to them they’re like I got this, and went back to work and crushed it. Find someone who is very supportive and who can help you when the times are tough.
So having someone on the outside to be able to support you and tell you to keep going is huge. Wherever you get that person that’s really up to you. Love yourself, but never stop improving.
Idealist types, we look for what is possible, we look into the future, and we tend to be quite ambitious people who want to do a lot. That’s awesome. That’s like the best thing about us. But one of the downsides to that is we can be overly self critical, we can be way too hard on ourselves and there is some benefit to that in terms of the quality of our work, I think it’s a lot better to be too hard on yourself than some narcissist who thinks everything they do is amazing, but many times it doesn’t serve us.
Set aside some time, five minutes a day, 10 minutes a day to just reflect on the great things you’ve done in the past and maybe have done in that day, and that’s going to make a really big difference in your life. Because when you appreciate yourself and you love yourself, then it becomes a lot easier to actually like stay happier, stay motivated, take action and do all the things that you need to do to reach your goal.
One of the misconceptions I think people sometimes have is to think that If they really accept themselves and ove themselves, that somehow they’ll start stagnating, not improving and that they will loose their ambition. I think that’s total BS.
What you’ll find is that no matter how much you love and accept yourself, that ambition to do something better do something new is never going to go away. So don’t worry about that.
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