Now, without further adieu, let’s jump into this week’s article.
How To Quit Your Job, Or Make Any Significant Life Change, Today Without Having To Face The Consequences
If you find yourself consistently yearning for a change in your life it is a safe bet you should make that change.
Whatever it is, there is a reason you’re feeling how you are. All those doubts and second guessing thoughts are just a by-product of fear showing up to hold you back.
My hunch is you already knew this. I’m also guessing you’re not here for some “head in the clouds” Utopian ramblings.You’re here for some tested advice and strategies to make shit happen.
So if you know you should quit your job, make a change in your business, or end a relationship…why haven’t you yet?
Why aren’t you following your gut and moving towards something you can be passionate about?
It’s been my experience that the most common excuse for delaying change is…
Drum roll please…
“It just isn’t the right time”.
And when does this bastard of an excuse show up most? When we debate quitting our job.
When the economy is bad…
“I just can’t quit my job in this bad economy…I should wait until things turn around.”
And when the economy is good…
“I just can’t quit my job in this good economy……I should ride the wave of raises and bonuses while I can.”
Ah fear, how it can turn the most honest and logical of people into irrational liars. And yes, it is still a lie even if you’re the only one who hears it.
“If a Man stands in an empty forest and lies to himself did he really lie?”
Here’s the thing about all the “arguments” our mind can come up with when we’re facing a big change: They’re all bullshit. If you look deep enough you find emotion dominates even the most “logical” of people when they’re facing change…or more specifically what change leads us to: The unknown.
Now this approach isn’t about deep introspective or getting to the roots of irrational fear. I’m going to leave the soul searching and ego vs consciousness discussion to Eckhart Tolle. Instead, let’s jump right to a strategy for bypassing the fear and just making the change you desire a reality.
What if deep down you know you want to quit your job, but you really feel now just isn’t the right time? What can you do?
Well, here is what I did.
How To Quit Your Job and Keep Getting Paid (for a little while)
In April of 2009 I knew I wanted to quit my job and start my own company…but I didn’t have enough money and the timing wasn’t quite right. At the same time I knew if I remained at my current job I would most certainly risk being sucked in by more money or “just another month” syndrome. I knew if this happened I would never be truly happy or fulfilled.
So I couldn’t quit but I couldn’t risk staying forever either.
Then one night a light bulb went off and the perfect solution came to me.
I sat down and furiously wrote the following letter. I then sent it to 3 friends, scattered around the globe in Vancouver, New York and Santiago. This is the first time I have revealed this letter to anyone beyond these 3 friends. This is the letter I wrote to my friend Andres.
Andres,I sent this email at 10pm on April 15th 2009 and the moment I clicked send magical things began to happen. I felt goosebumps as an energy flowed through my whole body. I felt totally free, totally inspired. I instantly felt all the positive benefits as if I had already quit…yet I felt none of the fear or uncertainty that would have accompanies quitting in that moment.
The last few weeks I’ve been bombarded by messages about living for today, your passion. What if you were to die tomorrow? Would you love to do what you’re doing today for the rest of your life? All that good stuff.
While I have taken action on building my own business I’m still, and always, at risk of slipping into the life away from passion. I see my boss, Jason, and he is becoming someone I never want to be, and I’m sure he didn’t want be either. A slave to work. My job at TDMP is becoming more and more regimented and worst of all, may soon be quite financially rewarding. This is what is scary because dollars make it hard to leave. My passion is not the mortgage business and I can not have my life there. We both know I need to be elsewhere.
I’m writing this to you personally to ask you to do something for me. If as of August 15th, 2009 (exactly 4 months from today) I have not given notice AND begun transitioning out of my mortgage position I need you to email my resignation to my bosses. Send them whatever you want, perhaps just copy and paste this message. They are entrepreneurs and understand the desire to pursue one’s own passion and create a legacy.
Here is the catch. If you accept this responsibility (and feel free to decline) I need you to promise me two things:
- You will call me on the 14th 1 604 928 #### with one last reminder.
- No matter what happens, no matter what I say, you will follow through. If I fly to Chile and attempt to silence you, you will kick my ass then send the email August 15th. I don’t know what opportunities may arise that will change my opinions or rattle me over the next 4 months, but I can not delay my passions beyond August 15th.
I considered sending this to a lot of people and am sending it to you, I’m sure that means something. Perhaps you’re the one friend I have who really gets it or perhaps it’s because you’re so hard to get a hold of I figure I won’t be able to prevent the email from being sent!
I had taken an action which would change the course of my life. I had taken responsibility for my destiny and the feeling was nothing short of incredible.
6 weeks after sending this email my boss Jason called me. He had spoken to someone who had met me at a networking event, except they knew me as a business coach (I had been moonlighting). He sounded concerned and said we should sit down and talk about what I want to do.
Because I had begun emotionally preparing to quit, and in many ways had already left, the conversation we had was easy. I gave my notice and the rest was history. I honestly believe had I not written the letter I would have faced tremendous anxiety going into that meeting and there is a good chance I would have caved to the fear, agreed to put my dreams aside and commit to work I didn’t enjoy.
The Change Process In Summary
- Admit to yourself you need to make a chance.
- Determine how much time you need to make the change, to a maximum of 6 months.
- Commit to making the change by contacting at least 3 friends of family members with a letter similar to the example above. At this point you do not need to worry about “what you will do” after the big change, that’s what the buffer period is for. Once you commit to ending one thing you’ll find your mind turbocharged with creativity and churning out all kinds of ideas.
- Enjoy the new job, business or relationship you deserve.
Remember: There is only now. Seize the day and make the most of your life. You only get one. Scroll down to the comments section to read about what happened after I put my notice in (and learn how to avoid the major mistake I made).
For the comments section: Do you think there is ever a valid excuse to continue a business, relationship or job you’re not happy with? Why or why not?